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Why I Will Never Gatecrash A Party Again

14Jun

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Why I Will Never Gatecrash A Party Again

It is Saturday night, I am working, the neighbors have amazing music, I feel like asking them to turn it up... In my misspent youth, I soon found out that where party music sounds good, you can get a bottle of wine, dress nicely, smile, say "John invited us", and you're in. But there were times when it didn't quite go according to plan... Such as the time when I (Caucasian) and some Asian friends tried to gatecrash a party that sounded just amazing, great music, awesome music system, we got so excited... We got our alcoholic offerings and knocked on the door. A smiling black man answered the door, with smiling black people from 4 generations behind him in the living room, all bearing a remarkable similarity in looks, dressed in their Sunday best, and well, you've probably guessed it, a ...

6Feb

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How To Stay Motivated To Work Out

I think 90% of us have been there (I'll leave the other 10% out of this because there are fitness fanatics who seem to NEVER burnout). It's the place where we just dread working out or can't find the motivation to get it in gear and do our daily workout. You push it off till the next day and when the next day comes you find some other excuse to not do it and eventually a whole week has gone by and you haven't done one bit of exercise. I get it. I've been there. I used to spend three hours a night at the gym, everyday, doing the same thing night after night. I was happy with the body I'd sculpted out for myself, but eventually it was too much to sustain. I kept finding excuses not to go the gym, finding ailments or aches to convince my brain that I couldn't get to my exercise. I of course ...

4Apr

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The Dating App Trap

There's a certain dating website that shall remain nameless. In all its ads, it sells itself as a means of finding your soulmate. Ahh, true love... Except... Well, it's obviously a site for hooking up. How do I know? You can tell the intention behind something not in its marketing but how it's designed. In this case, the website let you filter matches by all sorts of things - gender, location, age, salary, education... All useful stuff for finding a partner. But also not only height but hair color and eye color. Only the most vapid, shallow and deluded folks say their soulmate has to have hazel eyes. For a night of cheap, harmless fun though? Well, that makes a bit more sense. This trap can show up in your affirmations too. When you say you want to find 'love' or 'wealth', wh...

Is Your Wife Sleeping With Her Boss – Here’s How To Find Out

15Oct

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Is Your Wife Sleeping With Her Boss – Here’s How To Find Out

A woman having an affair with her boss is very common. In fact of all affairs that take place at work the woman sleeping with her boss is the most commonplace. Here are three ways of telling if your wife is sleeping with her boss (these tips are from personal experience). 1. Her boss starts to give her a lift into work. This is the first of the signs that I should have took notice of earlier and maybe I would have been able to save our marriage. Anyway if your wife usually gets a lift off a friend or drives to work but then she suddenly starts getting a ride from her boss then you would be right to worry. She will say "what's the big deal" if asked about it but beware because this is the first sign of infidelity. 2. If your wife is on the phone a lot to him or testing him a lot then she...

15Oct

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Get Your Cardio In At Home

Physical activity guidelines issued by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommend at least 150 minutes per week of moderate-intensity cardiovascular activity. Harvard Medical School suggested breaking those 150 minutes into segments: “30 minutes, five days a week — for all adults, even the elderly and disabled.” However, all gyms, and many parks and walking and hiking trails, temporarily closed in late March and early April due to COVID-19′s stay-at-home mandates by U.S. governors. No problem, expressed verywellfit.com in “9 Ways to Get a Great Cardio Workout at Home. ” Many basic exercises exert the right amount of energy to healthfully elevate one’s heart rate: ‒ Jump rope: Variations include jumping on one foot, alternating feet, crossing the feet, jumping with hig...

Is ‘Doing Nothing’ A Form Of Resistance, An Indulgence Or All The Rage For The Lucky Few?

15Oct

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Is ‘Doing Nothing’ A Form Of Resistance, An Indulgence Or All The Rage For The Lucky Few?

The pandemic has either created too much free time or too little. Kitchen-table commutes and reduced social obligations expand mornings and weekends for some, while caretakers and gig workers are exhausted by the constant, overlapping demands of home and work. It’s no surprise, then, that idleness is trending. Concepts like “niksen,” Dutch for “doing nothing,” and “wintering,” resting in response to adversity, have entered the wellness lexicon. Doing nothing is even being called a new productivity hack, aligning the practice with an always-on culture that seeks to optimize every waking minute. While such prescriptions largely target the privileged who have the resources to curate their schedules, idleness can also be a form of resistance to the capitalist machine. Artist Jenny Odell’s be...

Taking Care Of Kids Makes Balancing Work And Life Harder — Particularly For Moms, Poll Finds

2Apr

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Taking Care Of Kids Makes Balancing Work And Life Harder — Particularly For Moms, Poll Finds

At 4 a.m. each day, Pamela Hines wakes up to pack lunches for her two older sons, who are 9 and 7, and make sure their homework is in their backpacks. She gets breakfast for them and her youngest son, 2, as well as her husband. Kids in tow, she drives her husband to his workplace in Pennsylvania, 30 minutes from their home in Morgantown, W.Va., then takes the two older kids to school. Her husband lost his job at the start of the pandemic and is thrilled to be back at work now. He works from 5:45 a.m. to 6:30 p.m. each day, installing drainage systems and doing other manual work. After dropping the kids off, Hines cares for her 2-year-old while running the nonprofit she started to connect Americans who have extra travel miles with Ukrainian mothers and children who want to leave the countr...

22Aug

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The Amazing Benefits Of Pilates

There are many exercise you can do but few focus on the core, breathing and control like Pilates. Pilates is a physical fitness system developed in the early 20th century. It is practiced all over the world especially in the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. The Principles of Pilates Breathing: Full inhalation and complete exhalation are encouraged and deemed important when doing Pilates exercises. Pilates felt that this encouraged the intake of oxygen and the circulation of this oxygenated blood to every part of the body. Pilates breathing is described as a posterior lateral breathing into the lower rib cage. Pilates instructors try to properly coordinate this breathing practice with movement. Concentration: Intense focus is imperative and considered more important than the ...

Throwing A Surprise Party For A Relative Or Friend?

4Apr

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Throwing A Surprise Party For A Relative Or Friend?

"Look Jim!" I chuckled. "We don't have to take you out for your birthday dinner, there's a barbeque right here." Jim grabbed a hold of the latch and swung open the large outside door to the Angle Armoury building. At that same moment a chorus of voices shouted out from inside the building. "Happy Anniversary!" Stunned, I instantly glanced over at Jim still holding the door open. Jim glanced back at me. Then a lady yelled from inside. "Gordon and Trish!" Trish and I were completely taken aback and were completely dumbfounded! We had no idea that our relatives and friends had gathered here to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary! I was in a daze. It took us several minutes to wrap our minds around the fact that we were NOT going out for our son-in-law Jim's birthday celebration! How did...

Things You’ll Never Hear A Slim, Chic And Savvy Woman Say

25Feb

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Things You’ll Never Hear A Slim, Chic And Savvy Woman Say

I've spent years studying French women, as well as other naturally slim people, and there's a method to their "slimness," but it's probably not what you think. It doesn't involve dieting and deprivation. It's an attitude, personal style, a way of looking at the world, and it starts from within. While diet programs and other approaches keep you focused on your "weight problem," the French approach to living a slim lifestyle is probably counter intuitive to what you've been taught. From the countryside of Provence to the bistros of Paris, I've paid close attention to the attitudes and behaviors of slim, chic and savvy women. Their approach to food, weight and life is very different than the "no pain, no gain" mindset of the American culture. Instead, their mindset is rooted in pleasure and...