Gossip Is A Social Skill – Not A Character Flaw
According to a recent Wall Street Journal article, some communities in the Philippines consider gossiping so odious that they’ve outright banned it.
But aside from the difficulty of enforcing this sort of ordinance, should gossip really get such a bad rap?
Yes, in its rawest form, gossip is a strategy used by individuals to further their own reputations and interests at the expense of others. Studies that I have conducted confirm that gossip can be used in cruel ways for selfish purposes.
At the same time, how many can walk away from a juicy story about one of their acquaintances and keep it to themselves? Surely, each of us has had firsthand experience with the difficulty of keeping spectacular news about someone else a secret.
When disparaging gossip, we overlook the fact that it’s a...