Sex As A Bargaining Chip In Loving Relationships
Relationships of any kind are an inevitable compromise. No two individuals, even of the same sex, have exactly the same priorities at exactly the same time. When we are single, we can focus on our own selfish needs. But when we have a relationship with another person, we need to consider their needs as well as our own. Sometimes these two demands conflict.
A key principle of heterosexuality is that a woman offers intercourse on her terms. Intercourse is a privilege that a woman confers on a man as a sign of her approval. Naturally this causes men to feel controlled by women. A woman wants a man to be affectionate, interested in her concerns and willing to respect her wishes (requests she makes about issues that she cares about). Many men reject these requests as unimportant because they se...