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Is Love Losing Its Soul In The Digital Age?

13Dec

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Is Love Losing Its Soul In The Digital Age?

Instagram users have taken to issuing “weekiversary posts,” where they diligently mark the duration of their romances. An article in The New York Times explained how weekiversary posts have the unintended – or very much intended – consequence of shaming people who are not in love. The article also noted that this phenomenon makes some doubt the intensity of their own relationship. They wonder why their partners are not similarly starry-eyed and gushing online. Some even admitted that this phenomenon prompted them to stay in relationships longer than they should have: they go on celebrating their weekiversaries, just to keep up appearances. In truth, this could apply to any of the social media platforms, where people increasingly feel the need to act their lives in real time in a public for...

13Dec

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Behind The Belief In A Soulmate

The United States appears to be in a romantic slump. Marriage rates have plummeted over the last decade. And compared to previous generations, young single people today are perhaps spending more time on social media than actual dating. They are also having less sex. Despite these trends, a yearning for a soulmate remains a common thread across the generations. Most Americans, it seems, are still looking for one. According to a 2017 poll two-thirds of Americans believe in soulmates. That number far surpasses the percentage of Americans who believe in the biblical God. The idea that there is a person out there who can make each of us happy and whole is constantly conveyed through portrayals in films, books, magazines and television. What accounts for the persistence of the soulmate ideal in ...

13Dec

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Life-Hacking Your Way To Love

There’s never been a shortage of dating advice from family, friends and self-help authors. Yet in the digital age, people are turning to nerdy hacker-types as guides. At first, they might seem like an odd source of romantic advice, but think again: Computer programmers created the systems of quizzes, swipes and algorithms that millions rely on for matchmaking. Who better to explain how to make the most of these digital tools? This new approach to dating takes advantage of the power of data. “Quantitative futurist” Amy Webb, for instance, created a handful of fake accounts depicting the types of men she wanted to marry and learned what her highly-rated competitors’ profiles looked like. After applying these insights to her own profile, she became the most popular woman on JDate, an online d...

A Trait Could Be Key To A Lasting Romance

13Dec

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A Trait Could Be Key To A Lasting Romance

Passion and commitment are widely believed to be the foundation of strong romantic relationships. But a relationship is made of two unique individuals, and personality traits these individuals possess or lack can often make a relationship more likely to endure. In a 2019 study, we found that one trait in particular – humility – is an important indicator of successful relationships. An honest view of shortcomings Humility can sometimes be confused with low self-esteem, low confidence or meekness. But researchers have come to realize that being humble generally indicates the presence of deeply admirable personal qualities. It means you have the ability to accurately assess your deficiencies without denying your skills and strengths. For example, you might recognize that you’re smart but rea...

Older Adults Love Online Dating – Here’s Why

13Dec

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Older Adults Love Online Dating – Here’s Why

Older adults are the fastest-growing demographic on online dating websites, with those aged 50-plus making up 22% of members on Australia’s leading internet dating site. In this episode of TCTV, Sue Malta explains why older adults are increasingly going online to find love, sex and intimacy. This video is a co-production between SBS World News and The Conversation. See also: Online dating could have been made for older adults – they love it VIDEO: Are raw foods good for you? VIDEO: Coworking – the benefits of collaborative workspaces VIDEO: How the weather affects our mood VIDEO: What are stars? VIDEO: How laser tattoo removal works VIDEO: Solving the world’s toilet shortage VIDEO: Were the first artists women? VIDEO: The benefits of high-intensity workouts Sue Malta, The University o...

Relationship Therapy Help May Be More Successful For People Who Have ‘Sensitivity’ Genes

14Dec

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Relationship Therapy Help May Be More Successful For People Who Have ‘Sensitivity’ Genes

If the pandemic has put a strain on your relationship, you might be thinking about going to couples therapy or taking a relationship course to help. After all, research shows that certain relationship education courses can help participants improve their communication skills and relationship quality – which may even prevent divorce. But our research found that whether such courses work for you partly comes down to your genes. While a large body of evidence shows that relationship courses can help couples, one aspect that hasn’t been investigated yet is whether people who are more sensitive benefit more from such programs. We know from other research that sensitivity can affect how well children respond to certain psychological programs. Here, we wanted to find out whether the same might be...

The Myth Of One-Night Stands And Long-Term Relationships – Mating Market Theory

13Dec

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The Myth Of One-Night Stands And Long-Term Relationships – Mating Market Theory

Popular wisdom and established evolutionary science hold that the sexes seek fundamentally different relationships: men want short-term, no-strings-attached relationships whereas women value longer-term, loyal partnerships. The explanation generally comes down to biological differences between men and women. Because women invest more in reproduction than men do – think pregnancy, morning sickness and stretchmarks – being picky becomes important because choosing poorly can be costly, even devastating. However, for men, reproduction may only entail a brief sexual liaison and a bit of sperm – there are potentially no long-term costs. This calculus has been built into our psychology, many argue. Think about it more carefully, though. Where do all the women sleeping with these guys come from? S...

13Dec

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People Post ‘Couple Photos’ As Their Social Media Profile Pictures – Why Is That?

As you scroll through your Facebook news feed, you see it: Your friend has posted a new profile picture. But instead of a picture of just your friend, it’s a couple photo – a picture of your friend and their romantic partner. “Why would someone choose that as their profile picture?” you wonder. We are social psychology researchers interested in understanding people’s behavior in close relationships and on social media. Our research and that of other scholars provides insight into why people use these types of “I’m part of a couple!” displays on social media. Choosing profile photos that include their romantic partner, posting their relationship status and mentioning their partner in their updates can all be signs of how people feel in their relationship – and may send an important message ...

A 4-Step Maintenance Plan To Help Keep Your Relationship Going Strong

13Dec

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A 4-Step Maintenance Plan To Help Keep Your Relationship Going Strong

Early on, relationships are easy. Everything is new and exciting. You go on dates, take trips, spend time together and intentionally cultivate experiences that allow your relationship to grow. Then, somewhere along the way, life happens. There’s a little work involved in happily ever after. Désirée Fawn/Unsplash, CC BY One study on married couples in their 30s and 40s found that their marital quality declined over the course of a year, in terms of love, passion, satisfaction, intimacy and commitment. Too often, people shrug their shoulders and convince themselves this is just how it goes. Switching to relationship autopilot feels justifiable when you’re short on time, low on energy and must focus on other priorities like careers and kids. This is when doubt can creep in and tempt you to h...

Ghosts Of Romantic Pasts Are So Tough To Exorcise For Some

13Dec

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Ghosts Of Romantic Pasts Are So Tough To Exorcise For Some

A friend once grumbled that, given the choice, she’d rather see her ex miserable than herself happy. Few things in life are as traumatic as the end of a long-term, romantic relationship. Nonetheless, many people are able to eventually recover and move on relatively unscathed. Others, like my friend, aren’t so lucky. Even years later, they remain mired in the pain of the experience. Any reminder of their former partner – whether it’s a casual mention in conversation or a Facebook photo – can elicit profound feelings of sadness, anger and resentment. Why is it that some people continue to be haunted by the ghosts of their romantic pasts, struggling to let go of the pain of rejection? In new research, my colleague Carol Dweck and I found that rejection actually makes some people redefine them...