Wednesday, January 14

LIFESTYLE

How Can I Get My Lesbian Girlfriend Back?
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How Can I Get My Lesbian Girlfriend Back?

A hard fact of life is that relationships can break down. Most lesbians go through such an experience at least once, and sadly you've found yourself in this painful situation. Even though you've been dumped, you still care about your ex. Things may look bad, but there is still hope for your relationship if you take the right steps. Here are three critical things you must do if you want to get your ex-girlfriend back. 1. Keep your mouth shut. If there is to be any chance of reconciliation, you must watch your tongue and not speak poorly of your ex-girlfriend to other people. The lesbian community can be small and intertwined. Realize that you just never know who is friends with whom. Anything negative you say about your ex-lover has the potential to get back to her. Gossip spreads quickly! ...
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Are You Ready For A Road Trip This Summer?
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Are You Ready For A Road Trip This Summer?

Going on a road trip this summer? 4 reasons why you might end up speeding, according to psychology. Your bags are packed. You’ve sorted entertainment and snacks for your passengers and have squeezed all your holiday luggage in the car. You’re now ready to head off for your road trip – one hour after you meant to leave. There will be more traffic now, but maybe, if you put your foot down you can make up some time. It might be tempting to speed. People do so for a number of reasons, not just because they’re running late. Here’s why, what this does to your risk of being injured, and how to plan your road trip to minimise that risk. 1. You think you’ll get there faster Perhaps one of the biggest myths about speeding is it saves you a lot of time. In fact drivers overestimate how much time th...
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Having A Successful Long-Distance Relationship — According To A Sex Therapist’s
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Having A Successful Long-Distance Relationship — According To A Sex Therapist’s

Sex Education: a sex therapist’s advice on having a successful long-distance relationship. In the new season of Sex Education, Otis and Maeve, our favourite “will-they-won’t-they” couple (let’s be honest, Ross and Rachel aren’t quite as fun), are taking a chance on love again. However, as ever, things aren’t so easy. This time they have to work out how to be together while apart, as Maeve embarks on a writing course in the US. Yep, they are in an LDR (long-distance relationship). Typically, LDRs are deemed less successful compared to couples in closer proximity. But being in close proximity doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with relationship satisfaction. I’ve seen this myself as a sex and relationship therapist, where I frequently encounter clients who, despite living side-by-side, still ...
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How Kink Communities Help People Build Connections And Improve Their Body Image
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How Kink Communities Help People Build Connections And Improve Their Body Image

Pup Play: Kink communities can help people build connections and improve their body image. In recent years, the world of kink lifestyles and subcultures has gained increasing attention. Kink is a general term that includes various expressions of unconventional or non-traditional sexual desires. This encompasses a wide array of practices, including power dynamics, intense sensations/stimuli, role-playing and more. One such form of role-play that is often misunderstood is known as pup play. Pups are consenting adults who roleplay by dressing and acting as young canines, or pups. We are researchers within nutrition and health research with a focus on diverse gender and sexualities. In this project called Puppy Philms, we seek to more deeply understand how meanings ascribed to bodies are soci...
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What Benefits Do Friends With Benefits Offer?
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SEX-CAPADES

What Benefits Do Friends With Benefits Offer?

Friends with benefits – what a sex and relationship therapist wants you to know. There are many kinds of sexual situations people can get into – everything from committed monogamous relationships to a one-night stand. But friends with benefits (FWB) situations are often still seen as controversial, perhaps because of the potential for heartbreak. Typically, FWB arrangements involve two people engaging in casual sexual activities without the expectations and constraints often associated with romantic partnerships. Unlike a fling or a hook up there is often an understanding that the situation is indefinite and that the friendship may resume or continue even if the physical relationship ends. Different types of relationships can serve different purposes. Psychological research into FWB arrang...
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A Closer Look At The Sex-Capades Of Romans And Greeks
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A Closer Look At The Sex-Capades Of Romans And Greeks

Did the Romans and Greeks really enjoy orgies? Orgies conjure in our imagination the world of Greek and Roman Antiquity, thanks to more or less titillating films portraying debauched emperors, or maybe specifically Fellini’s Satyricon. The term is also used today to signify all sorts of excess. For us, the orgy stands for the ultimate celebration of the pleasures of the flesh, in an ancient world free from moral constraint. But what were they like in reality? From orgia to orgies The word comes to us from the Greek orgia. This denotes rites practised in honour of gods such as Dionysus, whose cult celebrates the regeneration of nature. It concerns so-called mystery cults – that’s to say, those limited to initiates, men and women, previously sworn to not divulge their secrets. The term or...
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Why Do Autistic People Experience Loneliness More Acutely Than Neurotypical People?
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Why Do Autistic People Experience Loneliness More Acutely Than Neurotypical People?

Autistic people experience loneliness far more acutely than neurotypical people – new research. Autistic people are up to four times more likely to experience loneliness than non-autistic people. Despite enduring stereotypes that autistic people lack the desire for meaningful social connections, new research from my colleagues and I unveils the profound distress they experience due to loneliness. It also shows the unexpected role that differences in the ways individuals receive and interpret different stimuli through their senses – their “sensory processing” – may play in this phenomenon. We combined two complementary studies that investigated autistic and non-autistic people’s experiences of loneliness, using different methods. In the first study, autistic and non-autistic participants co...
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The Benefits Of Being More Mindful In 2024
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The Benefits Of Being More Mindful In 2024

Trying to be more mindful in 2024? Try these tips for being mindful with your partner and kids. With the new year comes new year’s resolutions. Many of us might be making those familiar promises to be healthier, go on that trip we’ve always wanted to take or learn a new language. But if you’re among the many wanting to be more mindful in 2024, you’re certainly not alone. Mindfulness involves being attentive to the present moment and navigating experiences without judgement. It means being more attentive to our own needs as well as the needs and well-being of those around us. Although much psychology research has shown that being mindful can help you feel better mentally and emotionally, recent evidence suggests that self-centred mindfulness can have a downside, particularly when it comes ...
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This Just In — According To Science — The Man-Hating Feminist Is A Myth
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This Just In — According To Science — The Man-Hating Feminist Is A Myth

Why the man-hating feminist is a myth – according to science. As part of the “Women Against Feminism” campaign that launched in 2014, social media posts have featured young women holding placards with the message “I don’t need feminism because…” listing various reasons ranging from “I respect men” to “I am not a MAN-HATER”. This perception of misandry – a hatred of men - is perhaps the most prevalent and enduring stereotype about feminism. By this account, feminism is not really a movement to end sexism and bring about gender equality, but rather it is wholly concerned with dislike of men. While “Women Against Feminism” was ultimately eclipsed three years later by the #MeToo movement, it reflects a wider reality that stereotypes about feminism have caused women to spurn and even publicly d...
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Did You Know Jilted Lovers Could Once Sue For Breach Of Promise — Was Something Lost In Abolishing This Law?
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Did You Know Jilted Lovers Could Once Sue For Breach Of Promise — Was Something Lost In Abolishing This Law?

Friday essay: jilted lovers could once sue for breach of promise – did we lose something in abolishing this law? Just a few lines to my ever dear Beattie. My dear love. I am nearly mad. Dear love, I love the ground you walk upon. My dear love. I pity you from the bottom of my heart. You are my love for life. I think it is a yarn about my wife being alive … I think it is spite … Dear, I would like to see you … On a squally autumn day in Sydney in March 1914, Beatrice Storey, a barmaid, sued Frederick Chapman, a farmer, for abandoning her on the day of their wedding. To be precise, she claimed £1,000 damages in the New South Wales Supreme Court for breach of promise of marriage, a suit that could be used to claim compensation for injuries arising from a broken engagement. Beatrice had fir...
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