Saturday, June 13

LIFESTYLE

If You’re A Woman – Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters
RELATIONSHIPS

If You’re A Woman – Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

When it comes to power in romantic relationships, men are often cast as dominant and women as deferential. But working against this are caricatures of domineering women with their “hen-pecked husbands” and “whipped boyfriends.” At the same time, popular culture is replete with representations of striving and self-serving women – from celebrities like Beyoncé to the TV show “Girls” – who engage in relationships with men as social equals on a level playing field. The idea that during relationship conflicts, women can be just as volatile, combative and aggressive as men – what researchers refer to as “gender symmetry” – is also gaining traction. But appearances of gender equality can be deceiving. In my most recent study, I asked 114 young adults about their heterosexual relationship experien...
Should I Date My BFF?
DATING

Should I Date My BFF?

One person fills two roles. Being someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect. With your BFF as your romantic partner, you get the best of both worlds, someone with whom you can laugh, share your life and cuddle. When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together. How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal? And do psychologists confirm this new paradigm is a good one to strive for? I enlisted the help of Monmouth University Polling Institute to investig...
Sleeping Naked: A Romantic Interlude
SEX-CAPADES

Sleeping Naked: A Romantic Interlude

From Her Perspective: As the twilight deepened into night, I felt a welcoming warmth enveloping me as I slipped under the soft silk sheets of my bed. Tonight was special; it was a night reserved for vulnerability and unguarded revelry. The act of sleeping naked was not merely about shedding the burdens of the day; it was an invitation—an embrace of authenticity, both for myself and for the man who would share this sacred space. The freedom felt exhilarating, as if the very fabric of my insecurities fell away, leaving only the essence of who I truly am. I could hardly wait for him to arrive, to feel the touch of his warm skin against mine, to blend our worlds together in this intimate sanctuary. From His Perspective: As I lingered in the steamy glow of the evening, a sense of anticipat...
Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Having A Workplace Romance With Someone From The Office
ATTRACTION

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Having A Workplace Romance With Someone From The Office

Workplace romance: four questions to ask yourself before dating someone from the office. In the digital age, online dating and swiping right are the status quo for romance. Practically gone are the days of meeting “the one” in a pub. But what about flirting by the water cooler or over Zoom? The consensual office relationship has been both a romance trope and a taboo for decades. There are many reasons someone might enter a workplace relationship. Research shows that people gravitate towards like-minded people with common personality traits, backgrounds, belief systems and ideas. Proximity and familiarity also influence attraction, something psychologists call the mere exposure effect. For better or for worse, offices are a place where like-minded people are in close proximity to each other...
How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts
DATING

How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts

The problems with dating apps and how they could be fixed – two relationship experts discuss. Hundreds of millions of people worldwide use dating apps. But only half of users say that they have had positive experiences. Indeed, a shocking 11% of female users under 50 have received threats of harm. Surely there’s a better way to build these apps. Dating sites and apps have made it easier to find sexual and romantic partners, expanding the pool of potential mates to include the entire internet. About 10% of heterosexual people and 24% of LGB people have met their long-term partner online. But apps have also introduced (or modernized) many ethical concerns associated with dating. Before dating apps, many people met partners through family, friends or work, which meant that potential partners ...
Yes, Feminists Do It Better — Contrary To Myths And Cliché
SEX-CAPADES

Yes, Feminists Do It Better — Contrary To Myths And Cliché

Do feminists have better sex? Yes, they do. You might’ve heard the stereotype that feminists are just angry women who need to find a man who can satisfy them sexually. It is an old trope that has been with us since at least the 1970s. Unfortunately, just when we think we may have moved on from toxic myths like these, rhetoric reminds us they are still very much around. United States Sen. Ted Cruz tried to revive this cliché in recent comments at a conservative conference. He suggested that liberal women are sexually unsatisfied because liberal men are too wimpy: “If you were a liberal woman, and you had to sleep with those weenies, you’d be pissed too.” He implied that they will only achieve sexual satisfaction by submitting to domineering men. I have conducted research on the topic of fem...
Teenagers Can Often Spot Financial Struggles
PARENTING

Teenagers Can Often Spot Financial Struggles

Teenagers often know when their parents are having money problems − and that knowledge is linked to mental health challenges, new research finds. When parents try to shield their kids from financial hardship, they may be doing them a favor: Teens’ views about their families’ economic challenges are connected to their mental health and behavior. That’s the main finding of a study into household income and child development that I recently conducted with my colleagues. As a professor of psychology, I know there’s a good deal of research showing that young people who experience more household economic hardship tend to have more behavioral problems. But most studies on this issue rely heavily on caregiver reports – that is, what adults say about their kids. Fewer researchers have asked you...
Japanese Guys Think European Girls Are Not Into Them – They Are So Wrong!
ATTRACTION

Japanese Guys Think European Girls Are Not Into Them – They Are So Wrong!

When Muge and Masaki met  Muge was trying to learn Japanese so she thought that making friends could improve her Japanese. That time Masaki wanted to learn Turkish because he wanted to bike through Turkey. They started to talk every day and after 3 months, they met at Izmir (her city in Turkey). It was summer and they had lots of fun at Izmir but Masaki had to leave for another country as he planned his travels previously. He asked her to wait for him. That was a difficult time but Muge but, as promised, she was waiting for him. On their first anniversary, Muge went to Japan and met with his friends and family. They celebrated their anniversary at Tokyo Disneyland! Muge will go back to Japan this winter and they hope to not stay apart ever again. Questions to Her On Our first date... Wel...
Is Your Man A Man-Child? No Wonder You Don’t Feel Like Sex
SEX-CAPADES

Is Your Man A Man-Child? No Wonder You Don’t Feel Like Sex

Is your partner a man-child? No wonder you don’t feel like sex. A man sits on the couch, watching TV. His partner, a woman, prepares dinner, while mentally ticking off her to-do list. That includes returning her partner’s shirts she’d ordered online for him last week, and booking a GP appointment for their youngest child. He walks in and asks her “what’s for dinner?”, then goes back to the TV. Later that night, he’s surprised she’s not interested in sex. The people in this scenario are a woman and a man. But it could be a woman and her child. The dynamics are very similar – one person providing instrumental and emotional care, and the other receiving that care while showing little acknowledgement, gratitude or reciprocation. You’re reading about a man who depends on his partner for everyda...
Where Did The Time Go?
FINANCIAL HEALTH

Where Did The Time Go?

Why is free time still so elusive? There have been massive gains in productivity over the past century. So why are people still working so hard for so long? Output per worker increased by almost 300% between 1950 and 2018 in the U.S. The standard American workweek, meanwhile, has remained unchanged, at about 40 hours. This paradox is especially notable in the U.S., where the average work year is 1,767 hours compared with 1,354 in Germany, a difference largely due to Americans’ lack of vacation time. Some might argue that Americans are just more hardworking. But shouldn’t more productive work be rewarded with more time free from work? This is the central theme of my new book, “Free Time: The History of an Elusive Ideal.” Keynes misses the mark Many economists see the status quo mostly as ...