LOVE – Page 2

13Dec

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LOVE

Life-Hacking Your Way To Love

There’s never been a shortage of dating advice from family, friends and self-help authors. Yet in the digital age, people are turning to nerdy hacker-types as guides. At first, they might seem like an odd source of romantic advice, but think again: Computer programmers created the systems of quizzes, swipes and algorithms that millions rely on for matchmaking. Who better to explain how to make the most of these digital tools? This new approach to dating takes advantage of the power of data. “Quantitative futurist” Amy Webb, for instance, created a handful of fake accounts depicting the types of men she wanted to marry and learned what her highly-rated competitors’ profiles looked like. After applying these insights to her own profile, she became the most popular woman on JDate, an online d...

Dear Ms Nel: When Is Love Real?

Have you ever been in a relationship that has been a constant battle for the other person's time, attention and affection? You live on tender-hooks. Will they respond? Will they turn up? Or will they let you down? The feeling of being on an emotional roller-coaster controlled by someone else who cares less than you do will leave you feeling small, alone, anxious and sad. Your world will slowly contract until you are drowning. Most of us have experienced this kind of connection at least once in our lives. The truth is that equal and reciprocal love is not like this. It is joyous, calm and full of safety and comfort. You'll feel able to be your true and imperfect 'self'. You can be silly or angry, sad and tearful or, ambitious strong and successful... always knowing that your faults and your...

Romance Is Not Necessarily Love

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid's dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you. Even if you take responsibility for your own life in most ways and successfully handle most work and social situations, when it comes to intimate relationships you may feel helpless and out of control. You may find yourself inexplicably obsessing on someone who isn't available or interested, or even feeling so needy and helpless that you are unable to protect yourself when you are criticized, abused or degraded. It's a very painful expe...