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Even After Blocking An Ex On Facebook, The Platform Promotes Painful Reminders

12Dec

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Even After Blocking An Ex On Facebook, The Platform Promotes Painful Reminders

Anthony Pinter, a Ph.D. student in information science at the University of Colorado Boulder, recently completed a study on people’s experiences with upsetting and unexpected reminders of an ex on Facebook. His team’s findings are examples of algorithmic cruelty – instances in which algorithms are designed to do something and do it well, but end up backfiring because they can’t fully grasp the nuances of human relationships and behavior. How has social media made breakups more difficult? Anthony Pinter: Breaking up with a loved one has always meant making difficult choices: who gets the couch, who gets the fridge, who gets the cat. But before social media, once the messy details were sorted, it wasn’t too difficult to create the physical, mental and emotional space that research ...

10Dec

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The Dark Side Of Dating Apps

Dating app cover-up: How Tinder, Hinge and their corporate owner keep rape under wraps The Dating Apps Reporting Project is an 18-month investigation. It was produced in partnership with the Pulitzer Center’s AI Accountability Network and The Markup, now a part of CalMatters, and copublished with The Guardian and The 19th. When a young woman in Denver met up with a smiling cardiologist she matched with on the dating app Hinge, she had no way of knowing that the company behind the app had already received reports from two other women who accused him of rape. She met the 34-year-old doctor with green eyes and thinning hair at Highland Tap & Burger, a sports bar in a trendy neighborhood. It went well enough that she accepted an invitation to go back to his apartment. As she emerged ...

Building Work Relationships While Staying Professional

12Dec

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Building Work Relationships While Staying Professional

Workplace besties: How to build relationships at work while staying professional. Having meaningful connections in the workplace is essential for personal and organizational success. Most of us form these bonds naturally, as we spend a significant amount of our lifetimes at work. After leaving college, many people in their 20s move to new cities for career opportunities, where they face the task of creating a brand new social circle from scratch. The workplace becomes an ideal place for people to connect. Activities like grabbing drinks after work, playing team sports or just sharing meals serve as opportunities to form connections with co-workers. These interactions not only help combat feelings of isolation, but also add a sense of camaraderie and support to the daily work routine...

Creating A Magical Valentine’s Day: A Look At The History Of The Holiday

14Nov

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Creating A Magical Valentine’s Day: A Look At The History Of The Holiday

Valentine's Day is a wonderful holiday full of hearts, chocolate, and flowers. When many people think of Valentine's Day that's what comes to mind. But how often do we think of the real reason behind the holiday. Let's look at the history behind Valentine's Day: who was St. Valentine, what did he do to become a saint, and why is the "holiday of love" named after him. St. Valentine is suspected to be a Roman Catholic priest that lived in the third century AD and was martyred around 270 AD by Claudius II Gothicus, the Roman Emperor at the time. As the story goes, St. Valentine wrote a love letter to the daughter of his jailer, with whom he had established a friendship and grown to love, and signed it "from your Valentine." (1) Sound like a familiar phrase? Today, Valentine's Day is celebrate...

A Love Story Between A Black Progressive Woman And A White Conservative Man

11Dec

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A Love Story Between A Black Progressive Woman And A White Conservative Man

What’s wrong with a love story between a Black progressive woman and a white conservative man? Must we accommodate political differences in our closest relationships? Or should politics and doing what’s right trump love and happiness? These are the questions at the heart of the extraordinary – and controversial – debut novel Everything’s Fine by Cecilia Rabess, a Black woman and former associate at Goldman Sachs. Jess, a young, progressive Black woman, and Josh, a white conservative, meet at university – where their political views make them natural opponents, if not enemies. But the book begins as their paths cross again: Jess becomes an investment analyst at Goldman Sachs, where Josh’s career is already taking off. Despite their differences, a friendship blooms. Chemistry crackles and...

Multiple Personalities — Which One Are You?

14Nov

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Multiple Personalities — Which One Are You?

Do You Have Multiple Personalities? The human being is not only what he knows about himself, but also what belongs to his immense primitive conscience, which is wild and evil. That's why we observe the existence of many personalities in some patients' psychic spheres. They have absurd characteristics, since they are derived from the primitive conscience and their actions are always harmful. It is confirmed that some psychotic patients have double or multiple personalities and they are dominated by one of the personalities when their behavior is opposite to the behavior of their main personality. However, this is a very common phenomenon that occurs with many normal or neurotic people, but since their second personality is not so different from the main one, they are unaware of their mult...

One Community’s Story Of Meth Use And Domestic Violence – ‘When He’s Not On Drugs, He’s A Good Person’

12Dec

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One Community’s Story Of Meth Use And Domestic Violence – ‘When He’s Not On Drugs, He’s A Good Person’

One night, after five days of smoking meth, Misty* heard a voice. It just said ‘BOOM! Get up’ and I got up and was like, ‘where’s my son?’ and I run to the bathroom and my little girl’s standing at the sink and I could see the water running and coming down the hallway and he was already blue at the bottom of the tub. So I grabbed him up and was like, I mean, panic – I couldn’t do nothing but sing ‘Amazing Grace.’ It’s the only thing I knew to do. Misty’s son, one of her five children, survived – he was saved by a neighbour who worked for the ambulance service in their Alabama community. At first glance, Misty’s story is a cautionary tale against drug use, not unlike those portrayed in campaigns like the Faces of Meth and the Meth Project in the US. Media depictions of people who use meth...

An Expert On Polyamory Explains What A Polycule Is

10Dec

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An Expert On Polyamory Explains What A Polycule Is

After the collapse of the cryptocurrency exchange FTX, the media shined a spotlight on the personal lives of founder Sam Bankman-Fried and his inner circle. It turns out that Bankman-Fried, his on-and-off girlfriend, Caroline Ellison, who served as CEO of FTX subsidiary Alameda, and others involved in the company have dabbled in polyamory. Polyamorous relationships are a form consensual non-monogamy in which partners seek out multiple romantic or sexual relationships. The Guardian noted that many of the people in the crypto empire’s inner circle, who were sharing a luxury penthouse in the Bahamas, are thought to have been in a “polycule,” meaning a network of interconnected romantic relationships. According to Coindesk, “All 10 are, or used to be, paired up in romantic relationships with e...

11Dec

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The Dating App Trap

There's a certain dating website that shall remain nameless. In all its ads, it sells itself as a means of finding your soulmate. Ahh, true love... Except... Well, it's obviously a site for hooking up. How do I know? You can tell the intention behind something not in its marketing but how it's designed. In this case, the website let you filter matches by all sorts of things - gender, location, age, salary, education... All useful stuff for finding a partner. But also not only height but hair color and eye color. Only the most vapid, shallow and deluded folks say their soulmate has to have hazel eyes. For a night of cheap, harmless fun though? Well, that makes a bit more sense. This trap can show up in your affirmations too. When you say you want to find 'love' or 'wealth', wh...

12Dec

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I Dated A Dallas Cowboy!

And it almost brought the country club down. We should not have stopped there. It was Las Colinas in Irving, Texas, and I think my Dad paid hell afterwards. He never said a word. He was cool like that. But, later, I realized that in all the years I had been going there to swim or play tennis, I had never seen a black member. Jimmy Dean (sausage company) came up to me and whispered, "watch yourself girl," and I knew what he meant. Then, he shook my date's hand and gushed compliments, questions and information on him to the point that we both looked quizzically at each other. You see, my date was black and I was white, white, white. It wasn't until he was identified as one of the Doomsday Defense that the mind-numbing stares stopped. Women just pelted me with hateful looks until they reali...