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13Dec

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To Lead To Fewer Future Disagreements Think Objectively About Romantic Conflicts

RELATIONSHIPS & DATING Lindsey Rodriguez, University of South Florida The Research Brief is a short take about interesting academic work. The big idea Consciously channeling the perspective of a neutral third party can defuse romantic conflict and prevent future disputes, according to a study of 716 Americans my colleagues and I published in the journal Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice. We surveyed men and women across the U.S. who were living at home with their romantic partner in May 2020 – at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown. We asked them to identify a recent disagreement with their partner. Then we randomly assigned them to briefly write about that recent relationship conflict. We asked half the participants to write about the disagreement from thei...

Asexuals — How They Navigate Romantic Relationships

13Dec

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Asexuals — How They Navigate Romantic Relationships

How asexuals navigate romantic relationships. Though an estimated 1% of people identify as asexual – a sexual orientation most commonly defined as lacking sexual attraction – asexual people remain relatively invisible and are rarely researched. For these reasons, they’re frequently subjected to discrimination and stereotyping. For example, it’s often assumed that all people who are asexual are also “aromantic” – that they aren’t interested in being in romantic relationships or aren’t capable of doing so. However, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, and there is a wide range in how the members of this group experience sexuality and romance. In a recently published study that I conducted with several Michigan State faculty members and other research asso...

This Devastatingly Romantic Debut Novel About The Enduring Power Of First Love, With A Shocking, Unforgettable Ending

12Sep

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This Devastatingly Romantic Debut Novel About The Enduring Power Of First Love, With A Shocking, Unforgettable Ending

“This love story between Lucy & Gabe spans decades and continents as two star-crossed lovers try to return to each other…Will they ever meet again? This book kept me up at night, turning the pages to find out, and the ending did not disappoint.”—Reese Witherspoon One Day meets Me Before You meets your weekender bag.”—The Skimm “Extraordinary.”—Emily Giffin He was the first person to inspire her, to move her, to truly understand her. Was he meant to be the last? Lucy is faced with a life-altering choice. But before she can make her decision, she must start her story—their story—at the very beginning. Lucy and Gabe meet as seniors at Columbia University on a day that changes both of their lives forever. Together, they decide they want their lives to mean something, to matter. When...

Have You Found ‘The One’? How Mindsets About Destiny Affect Our Romantic Relationships

13Dec

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Have You Found ‘The One’? How Mindsets About Destiny Affect Our Romantic Relationships

If you listen to any number of love songs, dating “experts”, or plunge head first into a romance novel, you’re likely to think it’s in our destiny to find that special someone – your soul-mate. But how do you know if you’ve found “the one”? Will the birds sing? Will you see fireworks or a shooting star? And for those who are yet to find “the one”, should you keep searching, or is it a misguided quest? Research into the science of relationships spanning the last two decades shows maintaining a “destiny” mindset – that we are all meant to find that ideal person who completes us in every way – can be problematic for our love lives. Destiny mindsets affect how we evaluate romantic partners, as well as how we maintain lasting relationships. For some, this mindset can even include a mental ...

Ghosts Of Romantic Pasts Are So Tough To Exorcise For Some

13Dec

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Ghosts Of Romantic Pasts Are So Tough To Exorcise For Some

A friend once grumbled that, given the choice, she’d rather see her ex miserable than herself happy. Few things in life are as traumatic as the end of a long-term, romantic relationship. Nonetheless, many people are able to eventually recover and move on relatively unscathed. Others, like my friend, aren’t so lucky. Even years later, they remain mired in the pain of the experience. Any reminder of their former partner – whether it’s a casual mention in conversation or a Facebook photo – can elicit profound feelings of sadness, anger and resentment. Why is it that some people continue to be haunted by the ghosts of their romantic pasts, struggling to let go of the pain of rejection? In new research, my colleague Carol Dweck and I found that rejection actually makes some people redefine them...

Here’s The Psychology Of A Romantic Relationship That Expands The Self – Partnering Up Can Help You Grow As An Individual

13Dec

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Here’s The Psychology Of A Romantic Relationship That Expands The Self – Partnering Up Can Help You Grow As An Individual

It’s common to want to become a better version of yourself. Much like the desires to eat, drink and avoid harm, human beings also experience a fundamental need to learn, grow and improve – what psychologists call self-expansion. Consider your favorite activities. Things like reading a book, spending time in nature, volunteering with a new organization, taking a class, traveling, trying a new restaurant, exercising or watching a documentary all broaden the self. Those experiences add new knowledge, skills, perspectives and identities. When who you are as a person expands, you enhance your competence and capabilities and increase your ability to meet new challenges and accomplish new goals. Of course, you can achieve self-expansion on your own by trying new and interesting activities (like p...