Have You Found ‘The One’? How Mindsets About Destiny Affect Our Romantic Relationships
If you listen to any number of love songs, dating “experts”, or plunge head first into a romance novel, you’re likely to think it’s in our destiny to find that special someone – your soul-mate.
But how do you know if you’ve found “the one”? Will the birds sing? Will you see fireworks or a shooting star?
And for those who are yet to find “the one”, should you keep searching, or is it a misguided quest?
Research into the science of relationships spanning the last two decades shows maintaining a “destiny” mindset – that we are all meant to find that ideal person who completes us in every way – can be problematic for our love lives.
Destiny mindsets affect how we evaluate romantic partners, as well as how we maintain lasting relationships.
For some, this mindset can even include a mental ...