intimacy

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for the term 'fear of intimacy' to be thrown around. In general, it is more likely that someone will use this term to describe another person than to describe themselves. One reason for this is that it is usually easier for someone to spot this in other than it is for them to spot it in themselves. This comes down to the fact that they will have a mind that causes them to see themselves as merely an observer of their life, as opposed to a co-creator of it. A Hurdle As a result of this, someone can endlessly attract people that are not emotionally available and not take a step back to see if they are playing a part in what is going on. These people will be at fault, with them having no control over what is playing out. There may be times when this allows the...

There are different levels of closeness in friendships. Some people become friends because circumstances bring them together. Perhaps you worked with someone and ate lunch together fairly often, but when one of you left the job, the friendship didn't survive. Or you were quite friendly with a neighbor who moved away, and your contact ended. You probably know what's like to get together with a close friend who you haven't seen for a long time. It's as though you were never apart. Your connection is based on many shared experiences, values, and feelings, and it remains strong. Circumstantial friendships don't provide the same type of bond, but that doesn't mean they're not valuable. It's likely that when you enter a new environment, you will meet people you enjoy, but don't feel a deep conne...

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