Tuesday, April 7

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Why Do Autistic People Experience Loneliness More Acutely Than Neurotypical People?
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Why Do Autistic People Experience Loneliness More Acutely Than Neurotypical People?

Autistic people experience loneliness far more acutely than neurotypical people – new research. Autistic people are up to four times more likely to experience loneliness than non-autistic people. Despite enduring stereotypes that autistic people lack the desire for meaningful social connections, new research from my colleagues and I unveils the profound distress they experience due to loneliness. It also shows the unexpected role that differences in the ways individuals receive and interpret different stimuli through their senses – their “sensory processing” – may play in this phenomenon. We combined two complementary studies that investigated autistic and non-autistic people’s experiences of loneliness, using different methods. In the first study, autistic and non-autistic participants co...
The Benefits Of Being More Mindful In 2024
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The Benefits Of Being More Mindful In 2024

Trying to be more mindful in 2024? Try these tips for being mindful with your partner and kids. With the new year comes new year’s resolutions. Many of us might be making those familiar promises to be healthier, go on that trip we’ve always wanted to take or learn a new language. But if you’re among the many wanting to be more mindful in 2024, you’re certainly not alone. Mindfulness involves being attentive to the present moment and navigating experiences without judgement. It means being more attentive to our own needs as well as the needs and well-being of those around us. Although much psychology research has shown that being mindful can help you feel better mentally and emotionally, recent evidence suggests that self-centred mindfulness can have a downside, particularly when it comes ...
This Just In — According To Science — The Man-Hating Feminist Is A Myth
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This Just In — According To Science — The Man-Hating Feminist Is A Myth

Why the man-hating feminist is a myth – according to science. As part of the “Women Against Feminism” campaign that launched in 2014, social media posts have featured young women holding placards with the message “I don’t need feminism because…” listing various reasons ranging from “I respect men” to “I am not a MAN-HATER”. This perception of misandry – a hatred of men - is perhaps the most prevalent and enduring stereotype about feminism. By this account, feminism is not really a movement to end sexism and bring about gender equality, but rather it is wholly concerned with dislike of men. While “Women Against Feminism” was ultimately eclipsed three years later by the #MeToo movement, it reflects a wider reality that stereotypes about feminism have caused women to spurn and even publicly d...
Did You Know Jilted Lovers Could Once Sue For Breach Of Promise — Was Something Lost In Abolishing This Law?
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Did You Know Jilted Lovers Could Once Sue For Breach Of Promise — Was Something Lost In Abolishing This Law?

Friday essay: jilted lovers could once sue for breach of promise – did we lose something in abolishing this law? Just a few lines to my ever dear Beattie. My dear love. I am nearly mad. Dear love, I love the ground you walk upon. My dear love. I pity you from the bottom of my heart. You are my love for life. I think it is a yarn about my wife being alive … I think it is spite … Dear, I would like to see you … On a squally autumn day in Sydney in March 1914, Beatrice Storey, a barmaid, sued Frederick Chapman, a farmer, for abandoning her on the day of their wedding. To be precise, she claimed £1,000 damages in the New South Wales Supreme Court for breach of promise of marriage, a suit that could be used to claim compensation for injuries arising from a broken engagement. Beatrice had fir...
Living A Happy Life: Tips For A Harmonious Relationship
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Living A Happy Life: Tips For A Harmonious Relationship

Happy wife, happy life? A harmonious relationship is the responsibility of both partners. Relationships play a key role in people’s happiness. There are scholars who study how people maintain good quality relationships and the challenges they face. Some challenges are beyond people’s control, including financial, familial and health stressors — however, there are things people can control to make their relationships stronger. For instance, people can avoid escalating conflict, criticizing a partner or acting too jealous. They can also do positive things in the relationship in the form of gratitude, laughter, sharing good news and experiencing new things together. Given that there are many needs to be juggled within and outside relationships, people have to decide what to focus on. In othe...
Feeling Alone And Unloved? Here Are 9 Tips To Make It Better
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Feeling Alone And Unloved? Here Are 9 Tips To Make It Better

There are times of the year when being on our own, perhaps without our children, is tough. Christmas, long weekends, holidays and key social events can be hard if we're alone, everyone else seemingly enjoying special moments. Here are 9 tips to help; - Remind yourself that it's often just for one day. If you're alone plan ways to occupy yourself. How wonderful to know you can cook your favourite food, read your book or watch a film undisturbed, soak and enjoy a guilt-free leisurely bath. Then, when you're next with your loved ones you can organise extra-special times together. - Revise your perspective. Use some time productively, catching up on jobs and chores, but also enjoy 'me time', doing the things you often struggle to fit in, like catching up with friends or shopping at your own p...
Navigating Love Costs For Millennials: What You Need To Know
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Navigating Love Costs For Millennials: What You Need To Know

The price of love: Why millennials and Gen Zs are running up major dating debt. The average American invests US$120,000 throughout their lifetime in pursuit of love, spending significant money on romantic dinners, movie outings and thoughtful gifts, not to mention personal grooming and cosmetic products. As a result, according to a survey by LendingTree, 22 per cent of millennials and 19 per cent of Gen Z have begun to incur “dating debt.” Another study by Credit Karma found that 29 per cent of people aged 18–34 have accrued debt for a date, with 21 per cent exceeding $500 in dating debt in a year. Reasons include accidental overspending (29 per cent), an attempt to impress dates (28 per cent) and seeking intimacy (19 per cent). But another survey by Finder also reveals that 44 per cent o...
Where Does Chemistry Lead Us?
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Where Does Chemistry Lead Us?

Friday essay: Lessons in Chemistry – the real Prince Charming in this ‘bad romance’ is a good dog. If you were charmed by the Apple TV+ adaptation of Bonnie Garmus’s debut novel Lessons In Chemistry and want learn more about the book, the first thing you’ll discover is that it was a New York Times bestseller (for more than 58 weeks) and international hit, with a #BookTok following and rights sold to 40 countries. US cover. The second is that some American readers were angry about the cover because the pink jacket with the sexy illustrated book face – all flippy hair, pouty lips and cat-eye glasses – implies a sassy romance the story does not deliver. Garmus even received hate mail. “They were like, ‘You’re the worst romance novelist ever’,” she told the New York...
Friendship Research: What’s The Latest?
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Friendship Research: What’s The Latest?

Friendship research is getting an update – and that’s key for dealing with the loneliness epidemic. The benefits of friendship go far beyond having someone to confide in or spend time with – it can also protect you from physical and mental health problems. For example, people with good friends recover more quickly from illnesses and surgeries. They report higher well-being and feel like they live up to their full potential. Additionally, people with good friends report being less lonely across many life stages, including adolescence, becoming a parent and old age. In fact, friendships are so powerful that the social pain of rejection activates the same neural pathways that physical pain does. Behavioral scientists like me have tended to focus our research about friendships on their benefit...
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Is It Okay To Have A Partner Who Is Older Or Younger Than I Am?

Age Differences In Dating Dr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn't attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men can find this just as attractive in an older woman as in anyone else. Perhaps he enjoys the mentoring, perhaps just the emotional stability of an older woman who knows her mind and her heart. These relationships can last; it's not age that makes the difference, but how well the couple build trust, partnership and a life together. Socially, there is a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful, and may want men who are younger and therefore, more flexible: men who can handle it if the wom...