Dear Ms Nel: When Is Love Real?
Have you ever been in a relationship that has been a constant battle for the other person's time, attention and affection? You live on tender-hooks. Will they respond? Will they turn up? Or will they let you down? The feeling of being on an emotional roller-coaster controlled by someone else who cares less than you do will leave you feeling small, alone, anxious and sad. Your world will slowly contract until you are drowning. Most of us have experienced this kind of connection at least once in our lives.
The truth is that equal and reciprocal love is not like this. It is joyous, calm and full of safety and comfort. You'll feel able to be your true and imperfect 'self'. You can be silly or angry, sad and tearful or, ambitious strong and successful... always knowing that your faults and your...
