Tuesday, January 13

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Let That Zero Be Your Hero
DATING

Let That Zero Be Your Hero

There is this guy that you think is attractive. You see him all the time at school, work or maybe at your favorite coffee shop. When you know there is a likelihood that you may run into him, you find yourself spending a little more time perfecting your look that morning. It's working because there is no doubt he notices. He's always looking, smiling or showing some kind of interest from afar. You echo his sentiments by speaking, smiling and making eye contact, letting him know it's OK for him to approach because you ARE indeed interested. So why doesn't he come talk to you? What's it going to take to get this guy to make a real move? What typically happens is we women start making excuses for him. "Well, maybe he's just shy" or "Maybe I haven't given him enough signs letting him know that ...
Why Is It Always Women Who Must Improve, When It Comes To Dating Advice?
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Why Is It Always Women Who Must Improve, When It Comes To Dating Advice?

“Therapy-speak” advice on relationships and dating is widely available outside of the psychotherapist’s office. Much of this advice places responsibility on women for managing their emotional reactions to problematic dating and relationship experiences. The advice women are given about dating, relationships, and finding love largely falls into three categories. 1. How to not attract emotionally unavailable men Instagram is full of relationship advice that tells women to take responsibility for their “healing”. It advises them on attachment styles, co-dependency, and emotional wounds, as well as how to deal with avoidant and narcissistic partners. Such advice varies in quality from patronising and exploitative, to nuanced and compassionate. Some of this advice is helpful, much of it is not...
The ‘Talking Stage’ Between The Introduction And Officially Dating
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The ‘Talking Stage’ Between The Introduction And Officially Dating

Stuck in a ‘talking stage’ or ‘situation-ship’? How young people can get more out of modern love. “Going together” sounds like a romantic term from yesteryear. Today’s young people have a newer label: the “talking stage”. It happens between being introduced to someone and officially dating, and it can involve talking or texting for days – even months. Unsplash, CC BY The purpose of this stage is to have the opportunity to get to know someone before committing to a relationship with them. But judging by their posts on social media, young people all over the world are struggling with this modern-day dating phase. They can find it drawn-out, repetitive and emotionally draining. Is it a new thing? And how can potential couples partners make the most of it? New label, old practice The ta...
To Find Love – The Lies We Tell On Dating Apps
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To Find Love – The Lies We Tell On Dating Apps

Nearly one-fourth of young adults are looking for love through dating websites or apps. This relatively new form of courtship can give you access to a large pool of potential partners. It also presents a unique set of challenges. For example, you’ve probably heard about – or have personally experienced – a date that was planned online but didn’t go well for one of the following reasons: He was shorter than his profile said he was, she looked different in person than she did in her photos, or he was talkative over text but it was like pulling teeth at dinner. In other words, a person’s profile – and the messages sent before a date – might not capture who a person really is. In a 2018 paper, my colleague Jeff Hancock and I wondered: How often do people who use dating apps lie? What sort of t...
Are You Dating A Crazy Hot Mess
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Are You Dating A Crazy Hot Mess

In one of my all-time favorite shows, "How I Met Your Mother," there's an absolutely hilarious character named Barney Stinson that is obviously based off a pick-up artist. I'm aware that it's just a TV show, but many of his observations coincide with mine - namely, his hot-crazy graph; basically, the hotter the girl is, the more willing men are to put up with her crazy. Unfortunately, I'm here to tell you guys that many, many beautiful and hot women come with a prescription for extra-strength CRAZY. I've dated a Playboy cybermodel, pinup model, fashion runway model, strippers and dancers, cocktail waitresses, shot girls, pageant queens and the gamut of hot crazy messes both high and low. I'm also friends with many a beautiful porn star, actress, and even one of our former ABCs of Attractio...
Could Smartphones Be Ruining Your Love Life
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Could Smartphones Be Ruining Your Love Life

The majority of our relationships are in shambles. The U.S. divorce rate hovers at 40 percent, but that’s not the whole story. Many intact relationships are on life support. According to a survey by the National Opinion Research Center, 60 percent of people in a relationship say they’re not very satisfied. There are some familiar culprits: money problems, bad sex and having kids. But there’s a new relationship buster: the smartphone. My colleague Meredith David and I conducted a study that explored just how detrimental smartphones can be to relationships. We zeroed in on measuring something called “phubbing” (a fusion of “phone” and “snubbing”). It’s how often your romantic partner is distracted by his or her smartphone in your presence. With more and more people using the attention-siphon...
Should I Date My BFF?
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Should I Date My BFF?

One person fills two roles. Being someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect. With your BFF as your romantic partner, you get the best of both worlds, someone with whom you can laugh, share your life and cuddle. When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together. How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal? And do psychologists confirm this new paradigm is a good one to strive for? I enlisted the help of Monmouth University Polling Institute to investig...
How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts
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How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts

The problems with dating apps and how they could be fixed – two relationship experts discuss. Hundreds of millions of people worldwide use dating apps. But only half of users say that they have had positive experiences. Indeed, a shocking 11% of female users under 50 have received threats of harm. Surely there’s a better way to build these apps. Dating sites and apps have made it easier to find sexual and romantic partners, expanding the pool of potential mates to include the entire internet. About 10% of heterosexual people and 24% of LGB people have met their long-term partner online. But apps have also introduced (or modernized) many ethical concerns associated with dating. Before dating apps, many people met partners through family, friends or work, which meant that potential partners ...
The Concept Of A “Twin Flame Connection”
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The Concept Of A “Twin Flame Connection”

What are Twin Flames. How to know your Twin Soul. The concept of a "twin flame connection" originates from spiritual and metaphysical beliefs. It is often described as a deep and intense soul connection between two individuals who are believed to be mirror reflections of each other. Here are some aspects associated with the concept of a twin flame connection: Soul Connection: A twin flame connection is believed to be a profound soul-level connection between two individuals. It is said to go beyond the realm of ordinary romantic or platonic relationships. Mirror Reflection: Twin flames are often described as mirror images of each other, representing the masculine and feminine aspects of a single soul. They may have similar traits, interests, or life experiences, and they are be...
Pitfalls To Look Out For When Using Dating Apps, And Tactics For Success
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Pitfalls To Look Out For When Using Dating Apps, And Tactics For Success

Dating apps: marketing experts’ research reveals pitfalls to look out for, and tactics for success. Dating can come with new and sometimes frustrating challenges. In the past, relationships were often arranged by families and guided by societal norms, limiting individual choice but sparing us the agony of endless decisions. Nowadays, those who are single have endless potential partners at their fingertips. A 2019 Pew Research Center study showed that couples who met online are more diverse, be it in terms of income, education, political orientation and ethnicity. Freedom can have its price According to psychoanalyst Erich Fromm, freedom can sometimes come at the price of feelings of powerlessness and even isolation. We are marketing researchers exploring online dating to determine if th...