Monday, June 8

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Almost half of US teens who date experience stalking and harassment
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Almost half of US teens who date experience stalking and harassment

Falling in love for the first time can be a thrill, and teen dating is important to adolescent development. But according to the results of a study that my research team recently conducted, these early forays into romance often veer into unhealthy territory. CC BY-ND As many as 48% of 12- to 18-year-olds who describe themselves as having had a dating partner in the past year have also experienced dating-related stalking and harassment. Not only can dating-related stalking and harassment cause anxiety and depression in teens, but it can also be a harbinger for more serious forms of abuse should the relationship continue. Our study collected self-reported survey data from 320 adolescents from across the U.S. through the Survey on Teen Relationships and Intimate Violence. Youths with datin...
Five Fun, Yet Frugal, Ways to Entertain Friends at Home
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Five Fun, Yet Frugal, Ways to Entertain Friends at Home

To keep stress at bay, you would need to relax, unwind, and hang out with friends. But with restaurant meals, drinks, and movie tickets getting pricier and pricier each year, almost everyone can't help but be mindful of their budget. And with the reality of paying off student loans or credit card debts, forget about taking trips and vacations to exotic locations for now. But have you ever considered that probably the most overlooked place to hang out and have fun might be your home? You may be renting a humble apartment with a roommate, or your first home after college may boast of only a few modest furnishings. Still, you shouldn't let that stop you from providing a cozy atmosphere where your friends can unwind and enjoy. If you're at a loss for fun things to do, here are five frugal ac...
3 ways to promote social skills in homebound kids
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3 ways to promote social skills in homebound kids

With the severity of the COVID-19 pandemic getting worse in most of the country, a growing number of school districts from San Francisco to Atlanta have determined that a return to daily in-person instruction isn’t yet safe or viable. They aim to to stick with remote learning as the school year gets underway. Based on my research about the psychological effects of digital technology, I’ve seen that when children and teens spend a great deal of time isolated at home and gazing at screens their social skills and self-esteem can suffer and they may become lonelier. Fortunately, there are ways to lower those risks while young people spend way more time than usual at home. 1. Practice paying attention to other people One important social skill is the ability to pay attention to another person ...
I Met My Husband Online — Here’s What Everyone Gets Wrong About Online Dating
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I Met My Husband Online — Here’s What Everyone Gets Wrong About Online Dating

  My husband and I met on the popular dating app. Many people have misconceptions about online dating, from it being only for the socially inept to there being an extreme stigma around it. Despite the challenges it can present, online dating can be a really rewarding experience that can end in long-term commitment.   Six months ago, I woke up hungover in a queen-sized room at the Kimpton Hotel Monaco in Salt Lake City. My eyes were swollen. My stomach felt sour. But, overall, I felt OK. I got more than eight hours of sleep, which isn't something most people can say the night before they get married. I sat on the bed watching "Keeping Up with the Kardashians" with an eye mask on, in hopes my dark circles would cease to exist. It was the Christmas card episode. Realizing...
Psychology of Sex: Approaching a Woman
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Psychology of Sex: Approaching a Woman

Invisible bond of attraction Many of us are envious of a colleague or another man known to you escorting a lovely girl on his arm. This element of envy is usually with men known to you. One is not really bothered to see an unknown man escorting a beautiful girl other than an appreciative glance. The truth is that we do envy a man having a lovely girl as a date and the thought does cross the mind as to how he has done it. This in simple terms is referred to as the Psychology of sex. What does this man have that you don't? I have a theory:a man who hooks a lovely girl as a date is able to read that girl better and makes his approach after reading her personality and as such is winner Gaze It is not farfetched and psychologists have confirmed that just by looking at a girl a man can get a c...
Vibrators had a long history as medical quackery before feminists rebranded them as sex toys
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Vibrators had a long history as medical quackery before feminists rebranded them as sex toys

In the contemporary moment of sex-positive feminism, praises for the orgasmic capacity of the vibrator abound. “They’re all-encompassing, a blanket of electricity, that’ll course through your veins, producing orgasms you didn’t know you were physically capable of having,” wrote Erica Moen in her web comic “Oh Joy Sex Toy.” Vibrators today go hand in hand with masturbation and female sexuality. Yet for American housewives in the 1930s, the vibrator looked like any other household appliance: a nonsexual new electric technology that could run on the same universal motor as their kitchen mixers and vacuum cleaners. Before small motors became cheap to produce, manufacturers sold a single motor base with separate attachments for a range of household activities, from sanding wood to drying hair,...
Graduation Day More Than Just A Regular Day
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Graduation Day More Than Just A Regular Day

To some, graduation day is just a regular day, walking across a stage dressed in crazy attire only to be handed “a piece of paper” in front of a bunch of people. In my view, those rites of passages are so much more than that, especially for Black and Brown kids. We learned early and often that opportunities to be celebrated or positively acknowledged publicly are often fleeting at best for us in American society—especially when sports or entertainment are not involved. Unfortunately, because of the coronavirus pandemic sweeping the globe, May and June will be filled with prom and commencement cancellations instead of ceremonies, including my son’s kindergarten graduation. My heart aches for all class of 2020 graduates—from pre-K to graduate school and beyond, very few could honestly say t...
Sex talk: Common misunderstandings doctors confront about preventing pregnancy
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Sex talk: Common misunderstandings doctors confront about preventing pregnancy

Sex is one of the most natural things in the world – none of us would be here without it. Yet there are many things about sex that need to be learned. Even today, 60 years after the introduction of oral contraceptives, almost half of pregnancies worldwide are unintended. Avoiding pregnancy takes planning, and health professionals can do a lot to help patients better understand contraception. As an academic physician, I teach an annual course at the Indiana University School of Medicine called “Sexuality for the Clinician,” an important topic often not well covered in medical schools. In my classes, medical students report misunderstandings they encounter among patients about various topics, including contraception. Some of these wrong ideas are mentioned year after year, and correcting t...
For parents of color, schooling at home can be an act of resistance
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For parents of color, schooling at home can be an act of resistance

My 6-year-old hates the British. To be more specific, the British Empire that ruled over up to a quarter of the world’s land by the early 1900s. Hates that one of the biggest diamonds in the world, found in India over 1,000 years ago, now sits in the queen’s set of crown jewels. Hates that they drew up borders quickly and exited South Asia in the 1940s, resulting in the death of millions, and making his grandfather and great-grandparents refugees in the newly formed nation of India. How does my 6-year-old know all about this? Well, because we talk about it and have a lot of books at home. We have always read books about South Asian culture and history. And now that we have more flexible schedules since we have to work at home – and the kiddo has to do school at home – we have even more ti...
Working From Home? 5 Things You Need in Your Home Office
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Working From Home? 5 Things You Need in Your Home Office

When you work at home, even part time, you discover that a makeshift desk area on a kitchen counter or the dining table isn’t the best setup. Having a dedicated home office, even if it’s compact, makes a big difference in comfort and productivity. Once you’ve chosen a room or area for your home office, here are five must-haves to include in it. Janiczek Homes 1. Comfortable Chair If sitting at a desk is a big part of your workday, make sure you have the right chair for the job. This is especially important if you work at a computer. Look for an overall fit that supports your back and encourages good seated posture. Features to look for include adjustable seat, arms and back, as well as legs on rollers and a seat that swivels so you can easily get in and out of the chair and reach for ...