LIFESTYLE – Page 55

13Dec

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LOVE

Romance Is Not Necessarily Love

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid's dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you. Even if you take responsibility for your own life in most ways and successfully handle most work and social situations, when it comes to intimate relationships you may feel helpless and out of control. You may find yourself inexplicably obsessing on someone who isn't available or interested, or even feeling so needy and helpless that you are unable to protect yourself when you are criticized, abused or degraded. It's a very painful expe...

13Dec

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RELATIONSHIPS

Happy Habits For Relationships

Romance is a way to express your love, the icing on the cake. But don't wait for special occasions to express your love. Make sure that you nurture your loving relationship by practicing these basic habits in your day-to-day life. These may seem very basic, but how many do you practice regularly? Don't despair... it's never too late to adopt good, loving habits. Most couples who come to my counseling practice because of problems report that their marriage lost its romance long ago. It's easy to feel romantic when you live separately and date each other, because every moment spent together is special. From the moment you begin to live together, such romantic moments are no longer automatic. Instead, much of your time together is spent on more mundane things: doing laundry, washing dishes, ...

The Story Of A Ghost (Fictional Short Story)

13Dec

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ATTRACTION

The Story Of A Ghost (Fictional Short Story)

In the late evening hours, I was seated at the firm surface of my bed. I can't go back to sleep; in louver, I waited until the ultimate sunlit peeped through the slats. That moment I was in so much anguish that made me starry-eyed. In a flick, my thoughts desired to see the distance place where moments of loved ones dwell. Even if it was an intermission, I welcomed it all in alliance with my deep longing for the happy occurrence. My heart was in the clamor to see them all; my eyes sparkled with pleasures for all the fine senses of deep affection. While time held its breath, gave way to reunite me with the past. It flew me back to the time where I was seated with other small children maybe aged 6 or 7 and where a lady teacher believed she was holding a stone whisperer will always know of w...

More Young Adults Are Living With Their Parents – Is That Necessarily A Bad Thing?

12Dec

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PARENTING

More Young Adults Are Living With Their Parents – Is That Necessarily A Bad Thing?

When the Pew Research Center recently reported that the proportion of 18-to-29-year-old Americans who live with their parents has increased during the COVID-19 pandemic, perhaps you saw some of the breathless headlines hyping how it’s higher than at any time since the Great Depression. From my perspective, the real story here is less alarming than you might think. And it’s actually quite a bit more interesting than the sound bite summary. For 30 years I’ve been studying 18-to-29-year-olds, an age group I call “emerging adults” to describe their in-between status as no longer adolescents, but not fully adult. Even 30 years ago, adulthood – typically marked by a stable job, a long-term partnership and financial independence – was coming later than it had in the past. Yes, a lot of emergi...

Why You Shouldn’t Expect Fireworks When You Approach Women You Like

13Dec

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ATTRACTION

Why You Shouldn’t Expect Fireworks When You Approach Women You Like

Never Get Emotionally Attached To Situations Of Uncertainty One of the biggest mistakes men make is thinking that a woman they just met, who they're talking to, is a sure thing. He doesn't know this woman's motives or if she's even worth his time. Men have put themselves into bad situations because they thought a woman was a sure thing, but she had ulterior motives. It may seem like things are going really well, but the woman could be just looking for attention. She may be flirting with you at the club, but she is just trying to get her boyfriend jealous who's a few yards away looking at the whole interaction take place. When she gets what she wants, she will leave you there looking confused when she doesn't go home with you. Being Stuck On One Woman (You're Not Even In A Relationship With...

We studied what happens when guys add their cats to their dating app profiles

13Dec

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DATING

We studied what happens when guys add their cats to their dating app profiles

If you’ve used a dating app, you’ll know the importance of choosing good profile pics. These photos don’t just relay attractiveness; a recent study suggested that 43% of people think they can get a sense of someone’s personality by their picture. You might guess that someone who has included a photo of themselves hiking is an outdoorsy type of person. But as scientists who study human-animal interactions, we wanted to know what this meant for pet owners – in particular, male cat owners. If you’re a guy who owns a cat, what kind of effect does it have on suitors if you post a picture posing with your favorite feline? Prior studies suggested that women do judge a potential male partner based on whether he has pets. While they favor men with dogs, the results showed that they also give me...

Almost half of US teens who date experience stalking and harassment

13Dec

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DATING

Almost half of US teens who date experience stalking and harassment

Falling in love for the first time can be a thrill, and teen dating is important to adolescent development. But according to the results of a study that my research team recently conducted, these early forays into romance often veer into unhealthy territory. CC BY-ND As many as 48% of 12- to 18-year-olds who describe themselves as having had a dating partner in the past year have also experienced dating-related stalking and harassment. Not only can dating-related stalking and harassment cause anxiety and depression in teens, but it can also be a harbinger for more serious forms of abuse should the relationship continue. Our study collected self-reported survey data from 320 adolescents from across the U.S. through the Survey on Teen Relationships and Intimate Violence. Youths with datin...

Five Fun, Yet Frugal, Ways to Entertain Friends at Home

13Dec

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HOME

Five Fun, Yet Frugal, Ways to Entertain Friends at Home

To keep stress at bay, you would need to relax, unwind, and hang out with friends. But with restaurant meals, drinks, and movie tickets getting pricier and pricier each year, almost everyone can't help but be mindful of their budget. And with the reality of paying off student loans or credit card debts, forget about taking trips and vacations to exotic locations for now. But have you ever considered that probably the most overlooked place to hang out and have fun might be your home? You may be renting a humble apartment with a roommate, or your first home after college may boast of only a few modest furnishings. Still, you shouldn't let that stop you from providing a cozy atmosphere where your friends can unwind and enjoy. If you're at a loss for fun things to do, here are five frugal ac...

3 ways to promote social skills in homebound kids

11Dec

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PARENTING

3 ways to promote social skills in homebound kids

With the severity of the COVID-19 pandemic getting worse in most of the country, a growing number of school districts from San Francisco to Atlanta have determined that a return to daily in-person instruction isn’t yet safe or viable. They aim to to stick with remote learning as the school year gets underway. Based on my research about the psychological effects of digital technology, I’ve seen that when children and teens spend a great deal of time isolated at home and gazing at screens their social skills and self-esteem can suffer and they may become lonelier. Fortunately, there are ways to lower those risks while young people spend way more time than usual at home. 1. Practice paying attention to other people One important social skill is the ability to pay attention to another person ...

I Met My Husband Online — Here’s What Everyone Gets Wrong About Online Dating

13Dec

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DATING

I Met My Husband Online — Here’s What Everyone Gets Wrong About Online Dating

My husband and I met on the popular dating app. Many people have misconceptions about online dating, from it being only for the socially inept to there being an extreme stigma around it. Despite the challenges it can present, online dating can be a really rewarding experience that can end in long-term commitment. Six months ago, I woke up hungover in a queen-sized room at the Kimpton Hotel Monaco in Salt Lake City. My eyes were swollen. My stomach felt sour. But, overall, I felt OK. I got more than eight hours of sleep, which isn't something most people can say the night before they get married. I sat on the bed watching "Keeping Up with the Kardashians" with an eye mask on, in hopes my dark circles would cease to exist. It was the Christmas card episode. Realizing...