Saturday, January 17

LIFESTYLE

4 Essential Reads – How Do You Talk To Your Child About Violence?
PARENTING

4 Essential Reads – How Do You Talk To Your Child About Violence?

Children are exposed to images of violence almost every day, whether through the media or in real life. Consumption of violent imagery can take a harmful toll on a child’s mental and emotional well-being, research shows. Parents, especially those with young children, may be asking themselves how to talk about violence with their kids. Here are four articles from The Conversation U.S. that offer insight into how to have hard conversations with children about violence. 1. Teach children to be resilient Vanessa LoBlue, an assistant professor of psychology at Rutgers University-Newark, writes about ways parents can foster a supportive environment to help children develop resilience in stressful situations. Genuinely listening to children talk about how they feel not only shows care and acc...
Infrastructure That Has Long Been Devalued – Women-Dominated Child And Home Care Work Is Critical
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Infrastructure That Has Long Been Devalued – Women-Dominated Child And Home Care Work Is Critical

A fiery debate has erupted over the definition of “infrastructure.” Does it mean roads, broadband and other physical structures included in the traditional meaning of infrastructure? Or should it have a broader definition that includes other important parts of the economy, such as workers who care for children, older adults and people with disabilities? President Joe Biden prefers the latter meaning and wants to use nearly one-fifth of the US$2.25 trillion of spending in his jobs and infrastructure plan to expand and strengthen child care and home-based long-term care. As a sociologist who has studied the paid-care workforce for over 15 years, I know how critical it is to the U.S. economy – as the COVID-19 pandemic has made quite plain. The problem is, these workers have long been under...
5 Tips For Dating Success As A First-Timer
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5 Tips For Dating Success As A First-Timer

If you look at the popular social exchange theory, you will come to know about the general advice for making our first date a wonderful success. Given below are some of the tips that will act as a great piece of advice. 1. Consider what you want Before you think about pleasing others or finding love, make sure you first decide on what exactly you want. The good news is that you have a choice. After all, you can't just choose whoever you come across. But that doesn't mean you can obsess about the fine details of the process. All you need to do is get a general idea about what you want in your partner. Similarly, you should consider what kind of relationship you are after. 2. Decide on what you will offer If you think you can get something for nothing, you need to think again. The same rule...
Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind?
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Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind?

Human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples "mental health", also do the same thing. Although this is not much of a surprise when it comes to society, considering how extroverted it generally is and self-awareness is not encouraged, it could be seen as being a surprise when so many experts are the same. At the same time, a society that very much lives on the surface is naturally going to produce both therapies that lack depth and people that are happy to practice them. Two Parts When it comes to someone's unconscious mind, this part of them will contain their "negative" feelings and ...
Mother Wounds: Can A Man Emotionally Shut Down Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?
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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Emotionally Shut Down Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?

Although a man may be in tune with his feelings when he is by himself and even around a man, this may seldom be the case when he is around a woman. What will be normal, then, is for him to be out of touch with his body when he is in their presence. This could be something that he is acutely aware of; then again, this might not be something that he is aware of. If it isn't, it is still going to be something that has an effect on his life. Part of Life It can seem strange as to how he wouldn't be aware of what is going on but, if this is how he has been for a very long time, why would he? Also, if he spends a lot of time being out of touch with how he feels, his experience is not going to be very different when he is around a woman. His point of awareness can generally be up top, so to s...
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College Women Embracing More Diverse Sexuality -The Feminism’s Legacy

Most adults identify themselves as heterosexual, meaning they report being attracted to, and engaging in sex with, only members of the other sex. However, women ages 18 to 29 are increasingly rejecting exclusive heterosexuality and describing their sexual orientation in other ways. These changes in women’s sexuality are not mirrored by their male peers. That’s the primary finding in our most recent report on nine years of surveys at the Binghamton Human Sexualities Research Lab, just published in “Sexuality in Emerging Adulthood.” Together with our Binghamton University colleagues Richard E. Mattson, Melissa Hardesty, Ann Merriwether and Maggie M. Parker, we conclude that changes in young adults’ sexual orientation are not just as a result of increased social acceptance of LGBT people – b...
After Infidelity-Stay Or Go?
RELATIONSHIPS

After Infidelity-Stay Or Go?

When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave-fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there's a lot you'll lose, and you may have children to consider. Don't make an instant decision you may regret later, after the damage is done. It's possible to find an extraordinary love after divorcing late in life, but most of my clients report the potential partners out there are no better than the ones they left. While I don't think you should stay and suffer if nothing's working, in my practice I see many couples who do the work and wind up happier than before. The affair may have happened after long-standing problems in the marriage, w...
Do Fairy Tales Exists?
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Do Fairy Tales Exists?

Love at first sight. They see each other from across the room. Their eyes lock. Every other person fades out. The music starts. He walks over to her and it's just as if they've know each other their entire lives. They kiss. They marry. And 2.5 kids later and a black lab, they live happily ever after. After all. It is a fairy tale. I do a fair amount of relationship work with my clients. And it is no surprise that I hear the same complaints over and over again from both men and women. It is almost like both have forgotten that relationships take work. I had one women with whom I have worked with over the course of the years tell me that monogamy is a thing of the past. For some yes. For many, no. When we reviewed her dating history, all of her relationships ended in infidelity, or simply sh...
Youth: A Critical Stage In Life
PARENTING

Youth: A Critical Stage In Life

I enjoy writing to young people like myself not because our old folks know better and do not need the information (which of course they do, and in fact should read it), but because a youthful psyche is one which is easily and readily flexible to both the positive influence (principles, knowledge, truths) about life or the negative appeals in our society. The youthful life is the period where characters are materialized, values are developed and choices are made. The choices and decisions that would transform our lives and even forthcoming generations, in spite of our present dilemma, will be taken during this phase of life. Steven Covey, who was an author and great teacher wrote, "I am not a product of my circumstance. I am a product of my decisions." Hence, the need for enlightenment and...
By Conquering Their Own Fears, Following Their Child’s Lead And Tolerating Ambiguity – Parents Can Support A Child Who Comes Out As Trans
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By Conquering Their Own Fears, Following Their Child’s Lead And Tolerating Ambiguity – Parents Can Support A Child Who Comes Out As Trans

Young transgender, or trans, people face high rates of anxiety, depression and suicide. These elevated mental health risks largely stem from external factors such as discrimination, victimization and – most especially – family rejection rather than from being trans. Em Matsuno, a research fellow at Palo Alto University, is currently developing and testing an online training program called the Parent Support Program to help parents better understand and support trans youth. They talked with The Conversation U.S. about their findings and how parents can be better advocates – and avoid common missteps – when a child identifies as trans or nonbinary. What are common challenges parents with trans kids face? A big one is fear. Parents fear for their child’s safety. For example, they fear their ...