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A Rational Checklist Is No Match For Emotions In Matters Of The Heart

13Dec

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LOVE

A Rational Checklist Is No Match For Emotions In Matters Of The Heart

For many people, there are few things more rewarding than crossing an item off a checklist. But what if the checklist is about your dream partner? And what if the checklist is wrong? Your cold, hard list is no match for hot emotions. Glenn Carstens-Peters/Unsplash, CC BY “Relationshopping” is when you hunt for the perfect partner as if people were products. Online dating, now used by almost 40 percent of Americans who are “single and looking,” might be normalizing this tendency. Often aided by search filters, potential daters seek the perfect combination of attributes rather than focusing on the experience of being with a person. Relationshopping might work if people knew themselves well, but research indicates the contrary. In recent years, psychologists, economists and neuroscientists ...

Have You Found ‘The One’? How Mindsets About Destiny Affect Our Romantic Relationships

13Dec

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RELATIONSHIPS

Have You Found ‘The One’? How Mindsets About Destiny Affect Our Romantic Relationships

If you listen to any number of love songs, dating “experts”, or plunge head first into a romance novel, you’re likely to think it’s in our destiny to find that special someone – your soul-mate. But how do you know if you’ve found “the one”? Will the birds sing? Will you see fireworks or a shooting star? And for those who are yet to find “the one”, should you keep searching, or is it a misguided quest? Research into the science of relationships spanning the last two decades shows maintaining a “destiny” mindset – that we are all meant to find that ideal person who completes us in every way – can be problematic for our love lives. Destiny mindsets affect how we evaluate romantic partners, as well as how we maintain lasting relationships. For some, this mindset can even include a mental ...

MUST READ: Knowing When To End A Relationship

14Dec

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BREAK UP

MUST READ: Knowing When To End A Relationship

Relationships can enrich our lives, but they can also cause damage. Whether it's a friend, family member, or significant other, any relationship comes with its share of challenges. And more often than not, putting in the effort to resolve relational issues can and does result in a healthier bond. But there are those relationships that, no matter the amount of work and goodwill put into them, will never bring a return on your time or heart investment. These relationships are toxic, and they need to be ended in order for you to heal and move on. 3 Signs the Relationship Needs to End For Example, Are there are More Negative Interactions Than Positive Ones? Every relationship has its good interactions and its not-so-good ones. But there are those relationships that seem like every interact...

Love In The Time Of Millennials And Generation Z: Hook-Ups, Pansexuals And Holy Connection

9Jul

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ATTRACTION

Love In The Time Of Millennials And Generation Z: Hook-Ups, Pansexuals And Holy Connection

“That Love is all there is,” wrote Emily Dickinson, Is all we know of Love; It is enough, the freight should be Proportioned to the groove. Does what we know of love still apply to Australian relationships today – particularly among millennials and Generation Z, whose partnerships and dating behaviours are charting new territories? Review: Heartland: What is the future of modern love? by Jennifer Pinkerton (Allen & Unwin). Online dating, hook-ups, increased access to porn. Chastity movements. Romantic partners across (or regardless of) gender orientations. Polyamory and a still-prevalent belief in monogamy. It’s all part of the modern landscape. Many committed relationships strain and break under the burden of meeting the hopes and dreams of what we imagine to be love. Are th...

Terrible Love Life – Don’t Blame Dating Apps

14Dec

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DATING

Terrible Love Life – Don’t Blame Dating Apps

Dating apps are killing dating, or so some people would have you believe. Some journalists have argued that Tinder, Grindr and all the rest have not only “ushered in a new era in the history of romance” but that they are even leading to a “dating apocalypse” by making dating an unpleasant competition for mates instead of a fun search for a partner. You can listen to more articles from The Conversation, narrated by Noa, here. But we can’t solely blame dating apps for the way people use them. Technology has always played a role in courtship rituals, from lonely hearts ads in newspapers to the cars and cinemas that helped shape the romantic trope of taking a date to see a movie. From the emergence of the telephone through to social media, dating culture is bound up and has always coex...

3Jul

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RELATIONSHIPS

Your Bestest Friend – You

I have a friend, Maggie, who has been my friend since 1968, and she calls me her "bestest" friend as a way of appreciating our connection. It always makes me smile, and I feel the same about her. Often, my clients have trouble learning to appreciate and trust themselves, and I think Maggie's phrase should apply to the only relationship we'll have from birth to death-the relationship with self. Are you your own bestest friend? Whether you realize it or not, the relationship you have with yourself sets the pattern for how you connect with others. By developing a nurturing way to relate to yourself, you create a personal experience of both giving and receiving friendship. (This is also an advance peek at my newest book, "Commuter Marriage: How to stay close when you're far apart") Best of a...

Millions Of Working Americans Still Can’t Afford Food And Rent – Forget The American Dream

12Dec

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FINANCIAL HEALTH

Millions Of Working Americans Still Can’t Afford Food And Rent – Forget The American Dream

Jeffrey Kucik, University of Arizona and Don Leonard, The Ohio State University The Biden administration is likely celebrating a better-than-expected jobs report, which showed surging employment and wages. However, for millions of working Americans, being employed doesn’t guarantee a living income. As scholars interested in the well-being of workers, we believe that the economy runs better when people aren’t forced to choose between paying rent, buying food or getting medicine. Yet too many are compelled to do just that. Determining just how many workers struggle to make ends meet is a complicated task. A worker’s minimum survival budget can vary considerably based on where the person lives and how many people are in the family. Take Rochester, New York. It has a cost of living that’s ...

13Dec

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10 Ways To Rejuvenate Your Relationship

Maybe you've been dating for a while and you just need to spice things up a bit. Every relationship needs a boost every now and then, but not everyone knows just how to do this so that both partners are happy again. Some relationships die because the partners believe that there is no way to revitalize their relationship - but that's incorrect thinking. There are plenty of ways to put the spark back into your relationship. #1 Try something different It's seems a little simple, but trying something different in your relationship is the best way to overcome a 'boring' time and start anew. Try a new activity or go on a vacation together. Talk with each other and find out what you've always wanted to do - and then do it. Take a class together or try a new restaurant. It doesn't have to be com...

13Dec

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LOVE

12 Ways To Show Your Partner You Care

There are hundreds of articles and websites devoted to making sure that your partner knows that you love them. However, many of these articles are filled with trite expressions of love that seem clichd when they're overused. To really show your partner that you care, you need better guidelines and better advice. Here is some advice that you can actually use. Make coffee/tea in the morning When you're both waking up in the morning, one of the first things on your minds is probably some sort of drink to get you going. One of the best ways to help get your days off to a great start is to make coffee for your girlfriend or wife. Without having to go to the lengths that breakfast in bed goes to, you will show that the first thing in the morning that you think of is her. Do a little cleaning ...

13Dec

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DATING

The Bisexual Dating Dilemma

Sexual orientation is something that one does not have a choice about and even in this modern world most of us progressive humans have some difficulty in believing that. Even till not so long ago, being gay or homosexual was considered straight out bad. While that perception has somewhat changed today, and there is more acceptance of gay and lesbians, there is another section of the society that still is a victim of marginalization. We are talking about the bisexual community here. Insensitivity towards bisexuals is a real issue The dating scene for a bisexual is difficult, and even the best of the dating websites do not do much to help on this regard. Make no mistake! There are plenty of choices you do have while finding a partner on a bisexual dating website. That is not where the prob...