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According To A Couples Therapist, Talking About These 3 Things First Can Smooth The Way, Before Moving In With Your Partner

13Dec

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RELATIONSHIPS

According To A Couples Therapist, Talking About These 3 Things First Can Smooth The Way, Before Moving In With Your Partner

Moving in with your partner? Talking about these 3 things first can smooth the way, according to a couples therapist. Partners who live together typically come to this significant place in their relationship in one of two ways – what some clinicians call “sliding versus deciding.” Moving in together can just kind of happen without too much thought, or it can be carefully considered and planned. Some couples may see living together as a test for future marriage. For others, marriage is not a goal, so living together may be the ultimate statement of their commitment. I have been a relationship therapist and researcher for over 25 years, specializing in intimate relationships. Based on my research and clinical experience, I recommend that couples discuss the significance of sharing a home bef...

Could Smartphones Be Ruining Your Love Life

13Dec

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DATING

Could Smartphones Be Ruining Your Love Life

The majority of our relationships are in shambles. The U.S. divorce rate hovers at 40 percent, but that’s not the whole story. Many intact relationships are on life support. According to a survey by the National Opinion Research Center, 60 percent of people in a relationship say they’re not very satisfied. There are some familiar culprits: money problems, bad sex and having kids. But there’s a new relationship buster: the smartphone. My colleague Meredith David and I conducted a study that explored just how detrimental smartphones can be to relationships. We zeroed in on measuring something called “phubbing” (a fusion of “phone” and “snubbing”). It’s how often your romantic partner is distracted by his or her smartphone in your presence. With more and more people using the attention-siphon...

If You’re A Woman – Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

13Dec

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If You’re A Woman – Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

When it comes to power in romantic relationships, men are often cast as dominant and women as deferential. But working against this are caricatures of domineering women with their “hen-pecked husbands” and “whipped boyfriends.” At the same time, popular culture is replete with representations of striving and self-serving women – from celebrities like Beyoncé to the TV show “Girls” – who engage in relationships with men as social equals on a level playing field. The idea that during relationship conflicts, women can be just as volatile, combative and aggressive as men – what researchers refer to as “gender symmetry” – is also gaining traction. But appearances of gender equality can be deceiving. In my most recent study, I asked 114 young adults about their heterosexual relationship experien...

13Dec

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DATING

Should I Date My BFF?

One person fills two roles. Being someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect. With your BFF as your romantic partner, you get the best of both worlds, someone with whom you can laugh, share your life and cuddle. When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together. How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal? And do psychologists confirm this new paradigm is a good one to strive for? I enlisted the help of Monmouth University Polling Institute to investig...

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Having A Workplace Romance With Someone From The Office

13Dec

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ATTRACTION

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Having A Workplace Romance With Someone From The Office

Workplace romance: four questions to ask yourself before dating someone from the office. In the digital age, online dating and swiping right are the status quo for romance. Practically gone are the days of meeting “the one” in a pub. But what about flirting by the water cooler or over Zoom? The consensual office relationship has been both a romance trope and a taboo for decades. There are many reasons someone might enter a workplace relationship. Research shows that people gravitate towards like-minded people with common personality traits, backgrounds, belief systems and ideas. Proximity and familiarity also influence attraction, something psychologists call the mere exposure effect. For better or for worse, offices are a place where like-minded people are in close proximity to each other...

How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts

13Dec

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DATING

How The Problems With Dating Apps Could Be Fixed — According To Relationship Experts

The problems with dating apps and how they could be fixed – two relationship experts discuss. Hundreds of millions of people worldwide use dating apps. But only half of users say that they have had positive experiences. Indeed, a shocking 11% of female users under 50 have received threats of harm. Surely there’s a better way to build these apps. Dating sites and apps have made it easier to find sexual and romantic partners, expanding the pool of potential mates to include the entire internet. About 10% of heterosexual people and 24% of LGB people have met their long-term partner online. But apps have also introduced (or modernized) many ethical concerns associated with dating. Before dating apps, many people met partners through family, friends or work, which meant that potential partners ...

Yes, Feminists Do It Better — Contrary To Myths And Cliché

13Dec

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SEX-CAPADES

Yes, Feminists Do It Better — Contrary To Myths And Cliché

Do feminists have better sex? Yes, they do. You might’ve heard the stereotype that feminists are just angry women who need to find a man who can satisfy them sexually. It is an old trope that has been with us since at least the 1970s. Unfortunately, just when we think we may have moved on from toxic myths like these, rhetoric reminds us they are still very much around. United States Sen. Ted Cruz tried to revive this cliché in recent comments at a conservative conference. He suggested that liberal women are sexually unsatisfied because liberal men are too wimpy: “If you were a liberal woman, and you had to sleep with those weenies, you’d be pissed too.” He implied that they will only achieve sexual satisfaction by submitting to domineering men. I have conducted research on the topic of fem...

Teenagers Can Often Spot Financial Struggles

11Dec

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PARENTING

Teenagers Can Often Spot Financial Struggles

Teenagers often know when their parents are having money problems − and that knowledge is linked to mental health challenges, new research finds. When parents try to shield their kids from financial hardship, they may be doing them a favor: Teens’ views about their families’ economic challenges are connected to their mental health and behavior. That’s the main finding of a study into household income and child development that I recently conducted with my colleagues. As a professor of psychology, I know there’s a good deal of research showing that young people who experience more household economic hardship tend to have more behavioral problems. But most studies on this issue rely heavily on caregiver reports – that is, what adults say about their kids. Fewer researchers have asked you...

Japanese Guys Think European Girls Are Not Into Them – They Are So Wrong!

7Mar

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Japanese Guys Think European Girls Are Not Into Them – They Are So Wrong!

When Muge and Masaki met Muge was trying to learn Japanese so she thought that making friends could improve her Japanese. That time Masaki wanted to learn Turkish because he wanted to bike through Turkey. They started to talk every day and after 3 months, they met at Izmir (her city in Turkey). It was summer and they had lots of fun at Izmir but Masaki had to leave for another country as he planned his travels previously. He asked her to wait for him. That was a difficult time but Muge but, as promised, she was waiting for him. On their first anniversary, Muge went to Japan and met with his friends and family. They celebrated their anniversary at Tokyo Disneyland! Muge will go back to Japan this winter and they hope to not stay apart ever again. Questions to Her On Our first date... Wel...

13Dec

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LOVE

Are You Too Keen To Fall In Love?

I suspect we all know people who simply have to be in a relationship. If one relationship ends they're immediately on the alert, desperately on the look out for the next person to fill the vacancy in their life. Is this okay or do you think there's something wrong with being so keen to fall in love? Certain times of the year have the potential to be especially testing for single people; Christmas, Valentine's Day, birthdays, long weekends, events where couples are invited together can all accentuate the feeling of being alone and without a significant other. - Some people don't feel complete unless they have a special someone in their lives, someone to look after, care for, think about. They may even experience a physical incompleteness when they're unpartnered, a deep emptiness inside, ...